I
remember this:
a maid tipped out water for their
hands
from a golden pitcher into a silver bowl,
and set a polished table near at hand;
the larder mistress with her tray of loaves
and savories came, dispensing all her best.
I
am looking at this:
young women from the college moving from table to
table bringing cake, then ice cream, setting pink punch at
the side, and water, "if you want it," bending to hear our feeble
answers.
I
remember that those serving maids served also their masters' beds, which, if they betrayed, brought death on them from the master, as witness the returned Odysseus's ready noose.
I
am looking at women working for degrees in social work or geriatrics, getting a
part-time job to help with the tuition, glad to get one that fits their
ambition and their instinct to care for the weak
I
am remembering where the maids who served Homer's men came from: possession by
other men or upbringing in the household after their mothers' possession by
other men, the transfer, the post-battle transfer, rendered, for once, from the
woman's point of view, the woman bent grieving over the preceding man, feeling "the
spear, prodding her back and shoulders." You're mine now.
I
am looking at women who have, or have not, at their choice, taken a lover.
I
am remembering a John Manifold poem I loved for another reason, the calm Australian's
acceptance of his fate as, with his platoon marching toward their troopship, he
sees a girl:
She ran down the stair
A twelve-year-old darling
And laughing and calling
She tossed her bright hair;
Then silent to stare
At the men flowing past her —
There were all she could master
Adoring her there.
It's seldom I'll see
A sweeter or prettier,
I doubt we'll forget her
In two years or three,
And lucky he'll be
She takes for a lover
While we are far over
The treacherous sea.
She'll
choose the lover. Not be presented with one determined by
her parents (recent past) or by battle (distant past). Matter-of-factly assumed here, but not
noticed until the memory takes in a larger swath of history and
literature. Women's years of being
able to choose are so few, so recent!
Seeing that takes a while. Not many are allowed enough years.