I had, in my last post,
justified "trash" as a shorthand judgment of a group of people. Yes, it was hasty and inaccurate but
under the constraints of daily life understandable and surely forgivable. Judgments that are necessary — as to a
parent obliged to warn — should not be condemned as signs of prejudice. The word "bigots," as used by
Harper Lee in Go Set a Watchman for
the group she sees her father associating with is in the same class as
"trash." Both Lee and
the parents are being as accurate as, under the circumstances, they can be.
I think it was accepted
that calling people a bad name like "trash" would, as with any number
of bad names — "barbarians," "savages," "racists,"
"primitives," "decadents" — hurt their reputation and, if
they heard it, hurt their feelings.
Hurtful, but given the alternative, acceptable as a necessary
price. Forego it and you'll have a
child descending into — whatever.
And you won't be any help to other parents, who, unable to make a study
(no personal trip down to the Roller Rink), are guided by reputation. Yes, "reputation," that
gossip-stained, stereotype-making thing to which, in the hurly-burly of
parenthood there is, as so often in the daily world, no alternative.
In Norwood, a lily-white
suburb, the Roller Rink was frequented by a white sub-group, kids who had
"gone wild," children whose parents had let them go wild. That
is, parents who, it was assumed, weren't worried about a child getting, or
getting another child, pregnant, and so not being able to go to college and
having to settle for a job in the dime store. Good parents identified the hazard with one word.
Now comes this seminarist
with the question, "Suppose the trash happens to be a
minority?" You know, not a
white sub-group but a real minority.
That's moving the
challenge into college. "Adjust
vocabulary as necessary. At
a minimum identify the forces at work.
Allow thirty minutes for the question." In the street it's likely to be, "Why do you hold back
your freely used bad name when you get to blacks?" Which is exactly what I did in Post 311
when I couldn't bring myself to connect blacks with the gangsta rap I was
calling "barbaric." From
further down the street I hear, "Why are you such a wimp? Trash is trash." An equal-opportunity human category.
I will begin at the lower
end of the street. "I am a
wimp because I am a graduate of the Good Shepherd Episcopal Sunday School, the
last place you could ever use derogatory words about a group." Respect for every human soul reigned in that Sunday
School as respect for skill reigned on the ball field. As, I think, it reigned, or came close,
in other Norwood Sunday schools.
Children in Norwood, if they wanted their Sunday-school teachers to respect
them, had to be careful not to hurt the weak and vulnerable. They had to speak lovingly.
And why am I still
unhappy after I hold back the bad name and have my Sunday school teachers
thinking well of me? Because I am a graduate and postgraduate of an American
university who wants his teachers there to respect him. For that I have to speak
accurately. Trash is trash,
shirt-tails are out, and hazards are hazards. Determine it carefully, say it without fear or favor.
There's the mischief in
the seminarist's question. Minorities
are weak and vulnerable. Introduce
them into the equation and your calm at the blackboard is
shattered. How can I come out with
the respect of both sets of my former teachers?
You can think of my
problem as the problem of the American liberal but I think that's too
confining. It's the problem of a
host of American citizens wanting the best for their country. And it's worthy of debate by our most
careful thinkers. How, at this
time, can the need to speak accurately be reconciled with the need to speak
lovingly?